I behaved badly

April 8, 2014

I ran into this guy recently at my favorite cafe.

Snowman at the beach!

 

What a fun and unexpected treat.  I even took a chunk from his slightly melting feet to throw to my dog, who, unlike me, loves the snow.  He smiled as he chewed on it  (Someone had brought the snow down from Tahoe because, no, it doesn’t snow in Santa Cruz!)

 

What unexpected delights have shown up lately in your world?  

 

I had another one.  I’ll share it with you here.

 

Yesterday, I was struggling with some discord that came up with someone I work with.  I had unconsciously hurt her feelings and felt really terrible about it.  Then, my ego was trying to “justify” my bad behavior.  Then I was feeling sick with guilt and shame, because I think I’m a “good” person and how could I behave in this way?  I couldn’t forgive myself.  I owned my bad behavior but then I would start to justify it again, then feel shame again.  Ugh.  Back and forth.  It was literally weighing me down.  I was surprised at how visceral it felt – and I didn’t like it.  I couldn’t let it go.  

 

Then Ho’oponopono popped into my head.  Do you know about this healing tool/prayer from Hawaii?  

You can google it.  It was pretty popular many years back and I was always impressed with it’s concept but hadn’t really used it.  In a nutshell, I kept saying this prayer to her (in my head, of course) until I felt this heavy energy start to shift.  The “I love you” part was hard, but I kept at it – and I’m still keeping at it.  I know the conflict between us is softening and healing.   And I will definitely use my words and behaviors more wisely in the future.  A wake-up call for me, for sure, and for that I am grateful.

 

Another lovely piece in this healing for me came from my essential oils case, in the bottles of Roman Chamomile and Neroli.  I slathered a few drops over my heart area, where the angst was taking up residence, and it helped tremendously!  Why these two oils?  

 

In energetic aromatherapy, Roman Chamomile helps absolve wrong-doings and alleviates guilt.  It also imparts unconditional love and acceptance, for all parts of ourselves, and of others.

 

Neroli (orange blossoms) is for compassion, mercy and forgiveness, among other things.

 

Together these two oils helped me forgive myself for my bad behavior and to move back into a more open-hearted place.  What a relief to have that awful heaviness leave me!  

 

If you find yourself in a similar situation, try these ideas yourself, and let me know how it goes for you.

 

May all beings know love,     

 

Colleen

 

p.s.  Santa Cruz/Bay area folks:

I’m teaching a class called “The Healing Power of Essential Oils”  and I’d love for you to join me.  If you’ve always been curious about essential oils but didn’t know where to start, this class is for you.  We’ll study several oils in depth, including their spiritual and emotional uses, and you will also create your own take-home healing blend!  It’s a half-day introductory class on April 24th.  Click here to register or for more information:  http://www.cityofcapitola.org/recreation/page/new-healing-power-essential-oils

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